RL stealing me away
It’s been too quiet around here, I know. I miss blogging, but my recent circumstances have been a huge drain on my time and unfortunately, it won’t be getting better anytime soon (in fact, I am writing this at lunch because that’s often the only time I get to write).
My dad died at the end of May, about a week before my birthday. He had lung cancer and was doing really well, but the cancer had quietly spread to his brain and he went downhill very suddenly. He was 65.
Two days before Dad was taken into palliative care, I discovered that I was pregnant.
My partner lives in Melbourne and I decided that it would be best for me to move there, as my job can be done remotely and therefore I can take it with me when I move, preserving both of our incomes. This will mean financial security for my new family, but at it also meant upsetting/angering pretty much all of my family in the process, because they are losing me after losing Dad, plus losing the chance to be around the baby when it is born.
I’m excited about being pregnant and about going on a big adventure, but at the same time I feel guilty and that I can’t be openly happy because people around me are grieving (for my Dad, and for me moving away). It is simultaneously the best and most exciting time in my life, and the most upsetting and stressful.
So basically the last few months have been filled with extremely dramatic ups and downs.
Moving two states away is pretty huge. I’ll be going at the start of October, and while that is still two and a half months to prepare, the fact that I work full time and I’m pregnant (and therefore tired a lot) means that I really only have weekends to be able to pack and get organised. 10 or so full weekends seem like plenty to pack – except that I still have animals to take care of, plus help my mum with errands etc. Being pregnant makes me very tired in the middle of the day, so I often have to nap (I get so exhausted that I feel like I might fall on the floor and sleep wherever I end up), and this eats up a lot of my free time, also.
What I’m trying to say is.. I’m in for a very full few months with very little spare time.
I really don’t want to close my blog. It seems far too final. Even if I don’t have time to update weekly, I don’t want to close it. I don’t want it to be “retired” or “inactive” on people’s blogrolls. That makes me sad. I still want the option to randomly blog when I feel like it, but realistically, I won’t be able to keep to much of a schedule. I still want to keep my guide up to date, definitely (it needs some tweaks at the moment, the BIS list needs Sinestra loot added back in, and there are some mistakes I need to fix), but I am struggling to find the time to sit and just write. I miss it, though. I still love to write.
Another thing to consider, on the topic of writing, is that I will most likely create a personal blog for my friends and family to keep up with what’s happening, so that will eat into my free time here and there.
For now though, I’m still playing; I’m enjoying Firelands SO MUCH and love being able to improve my character again. I love getting upgrades and knowing that I am getting stronger. In my small amount of spare time I’ve been working on achievements and finishing up old quests. But a bit of gaming, plus trying to pack up my life, plus trying to get plenty of rest and look after myself, leaves so little time to write. I want to look after myself (and later, I want to restrict the amount of time that I sit at a desk).
And, as much as I love writing about WoW, I don’t really want to let the writing time edge out the playing time.
So this is not a goodbye; rather, it is a courtesy post to let you know that I’m still around, I just might be very quiet, blog-wise, while my life is a bit of a whirlwind and I have so little spare time. I’ll still write, sometimes, but it will be whenever I can find a pocket of free time.
<3 Keeva
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My name is Emma and I live in Australia. I’ve been gaming on and off since I was about 11. I won’t tell you exactly how long ago that was, let’s just say long enough.
about 7 months ago
ARM THE BABY-CANNON!
about 7 months ago
You’re so gross.
about 7 months ago
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
about 7 months ago
Congrats and condolences, as appropriate.
about 7 months ago
Keeva, I’m so sorry for your loss, and I’m so happy about your *good* news! I haven’t played a druid in three tiers now and I still read your blog just because I like to know what you have to say. We’ll look forward to when you’re able to write and meantime be here happy to get any news and wishing you the best.
Vidyala´s last blog ..Tuesday Art Day: About The Artist
about 7 months ago
Found a perfect gift for you:
http://www.cafepress.com.au/pyra_rpg
I hope after everything settles down you will find time to write druid articles again. I really enjoy reading your blog
Best of luck with everything, and remember – it’s ok to be a little slack when you are pregnant! Don’t try to do everything by yourself or everything perfectly!
Tellervo´s last blog ..PetとMountのコレクションをチェックする方法
about 7 months ago
Thanks so much for keeping us posted! It sounds like a tumultuous time, but hopefully the ups will outweigh the downs. Whenever you have the time, we’ll be here
Windsoar´s last blog ..Who’s On First?
about 7 months ago
Good luck! And congratulations on the baby. Teach him or her to farm for you.
about 7 months ago
Congratulations on the baby news and I’m sorry for your loss. Having Caitlin 9 weeks after mum died while emotional, but was actually quite healing – you love your little bundle so much and gain such respect for what your parents go through you can’t help but feel close to them even when they’re no longer there. I hope you find your bub helps you through tough times too.
I also know what you mean about blogging – I don’t want to give up my blog but I play so rarely now and basically do all my net access on the iPhone so it’s just not that feasible. I’m sure you’ll make it work for you – I recommend a Sleepy Wrap wish I had it when she was a newborn I reckon I could have got much more game playing in!
about 7 months ago
Congrats on the baby
Also Real life always > WoW
We be here when you have time to get your healing blog mode on
about 7 months ago
Keeva, I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. But congratulations on the pregnancy
It _is_ really hard on maternal grandmothers to be away from a grandchild, but it is a lot better in this age of technology, when you can Skype or whatever, so they can see and hear the child, it doesn’t replace cuddles and never will, but it is better than nothing, and means the child can develop a relationship at a distance. Also, speaking personally, airlines have been brilliant when I’ve travelled alone with a baby, so there’s been no problem travelling to see your family if flight prices aren’t too horrendous.
Hope the moving goes well too. *Many hugs*
I sincerely wish you the best of luck
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about 7 months ago
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss and I hope you’ll be ok. On the other hand, congratulations on your good news! What a rollercoaster this must be for you. Look after yourself first and foremost, the blog can wait and so will we. Best of luck with the little one and the move!
about 7 months ago
Keeva, I’m so sorry about the loss of your father. But congratulations on your good news! I wish you the best of luck on your new life adventures.
Though I and many, many others will very much miss your blogging – you’re one of the big reasons I started my blog – just take it easy. Everyone will stick around to read whenever you do have time for a post or two. *hugs*
Jasyla´s last blog ..Evaluating Holy Priests with World of Logs
about 7 months ago
Keeva, my condolences and congratulations, I know you’ve heard it all from other people’s comments in here already. Hope you don’t get too much stress in the move! I will keep an eye on your blog as always for news of your exciting times coming up.
Always your fan! <3
about 7 months ago
Sorry about your dad, and congrats on the baby! I can’t even imagine all of that happening at the same time. I really want to say that we’re all here to support you in any way you need, and take as much time off from blogging as you need, too.
lissanna´s last blog ..Tanking Q’s
about 7 months ago
Best of luck with everything, I’m sure all of us will still be here whenever you find the time to drop by.
about 7 months ago
Keeva,
I’m so very sorry about your papa.
And also, congratulations mama bear! How very exciting for you! Good Luck on your new adventures, and may they be blessed along the way

Additionally, if you need any help with the maintenance of restrodruid.info just give me a nudge and I’d be happy to assist you with the project as you may need during your busy time! It’s such a super wonderful resource for everyone!
Beruthiel´s last blog ..Healing Baleroc (video guide)
about 7 months ago
::hugs for both the wonderful news and the sad:: Hopefully your family will come to terms and accept your reasons for moving soon. I am excited about you having a baby… My beautiful girl is 9 years old now, and what an adventure it has been, and now you are off on your own adventure!
about 7 months ago
I’m both sad and happy for you. Congratulations on the new baby but I’m so sorry you lost your dad. I’m sure we’ll all be here when you want to come back
Yay baby!
Karegina´s last blog ..Day 03 – Your first day playing WoW
about 7 months ago
Best of luck with everything. Sounds like a real rollercoaster ride.
See you when you are ready. Take care of real life.
about 7 months ago
It sounds like a very eventful time. Hang in there, and good luck with everything going on.
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about 7 months ago
Hey Keeva.
I hope things start to stabilize in the near future. It sounds like you’re in a really hectic time in your life. I hope things start to settle down in the near future.
In the meantime, I might make a suggestion, if it’s not to much, why not have a few guest posters come on and say a word or two about things? It might be just what you need to lighten your burden.
about 7 months ago
Hi Keeva,
So sorry to hear about your dad. But congratulations on the baby! Take your time to sort things out and I look forward to reading your blog once you’re ready to return to it. Good luck with the move and your new adventures! *hugs*
Melyanna´s last blog ..My Fiery Plans for this Tier
about 7 months ago
I’ll echo everyone else’s condolences about your dad as well as the congratulations for the baby!
For the longest time I thought of Phaelia as the big mama tree of all us resto druid bloggers. Then when Phaelia retired, I thought of you as the next big mama tree. So I love that our mama tree is going to be a real life mama!
about 7 months ago
So sorry to hear about your father.
Big congrats on the baby though! We also just found out we are expecting too…..I feel your pain on the tiredness….seems like things I used to take for granted are massive energy drains now.
Here is wishing you the best of luck in all your new adventures!
about 7 months ago
Most important question: Have you reserved a name and picked out a class yet?
And with all births and deaths, life is a revolving door. As one person leaves, another enters, and you never know whether there’s a little of the person who left lurking behind the person who arrived.
We are after all, part of one universal conciousness.
about 7 months ago
Okay I’m a bit late to the party here but I’d like to pass on my condolences and my congratulations as well. I wish you all the very best of luck with the move and for the coming months… the tiredness does get better before the extra weight weighs you down too much

Just update us on twitter every now and then and the internets will be happy!
Angelya´s last blog ..The Cutest 5-man Group Ever
about 7 months ago
So sorry for your loss, and congratulations on your own mini-tree
Can we expect another adorable wow baby-blog in the future..?
Good luck!
about 7 months ago
I’ve read your blog for a long time but never posted a comment. Just to let you know that you’re in all of our thoughts! Best of luck with everything at the moment.
Thought I’d add slightly to the pile of other similar comments.
Jerky
about 7 months ago
Condolences and congrats. Life changing events always seem to clump up and crit you when you least need them to. But hang in there and eventually life will adjust.
Having children has been the biggest adventure I could have possibly ever had. Take care of yourself and don’t worry about not writting for us, we are quite patient really, after all trees tend to take the long view
about 7 months ago
Sorry for the loss, hope you and your family cope. However congratulations on the news of pregnancy
That’s good to hear
I may not play WoW, but I check this blog at least a month hoping for a new post, so looking forward to anything new you have to write in the future, even if that is a fair time away :S
about 7 months ago
Condolences and Congratulations. Seems an odd pairing for a greeting but at least passes on our best wishes.
I do hope you keep posting even if it is sporadically and far between each post. I enjoy reading what you have to write, and unless you are being paid for it there is no reason for regular updates. Life throws a lot of unexpected things at us, as I’ve found out over the last few months, and its not always easy to do what you enjoy or like around them.
Once a week or once in a blue moon I’m fairly sure I’ll keep an eye out for what pops up here. Hope things get better for you from here on!
Jod´s last blog ..Jumping The Hurdle: Convincing Family To Play
about 7 months ago
All the best dealing with these simultaneous challenges and of course congratulations!! I’ve found in the past that there is no need for fatalism in blogging nor gaming – the blog (and no doubt your audience too) will still be here when you return and so will the game. no need for goodbyes and quitting posts.
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about 7 months ago
Sorry to hear the loss of your father, but so happy about the baby.
I fear your Wow career may have to take a back burner…I stopped playing when my partner was heavily pregnant nearly a year ago now, I just dropped offline and never really found the right moment to log back on to say goodbye.
Since my son was born in December there has been no chance of playing, when people say its a game changer, they really mean it.
Good luck with everything, I’ve been a silent reader for a few years and really enjoyed your work and what you were doing. Best out there IMO.
about 7 months ago
I just wanted to say that I’ve always enjoyed reading your blog, you were always the druid I looked to when I had any questions or concerns about what was going on with my own and seeing that you always had the answers somewhere in your writing was always a huge relief to me. I appreciate what you’ve done with the druids of WoW.
I also wanted to say that I can relate to your situation right now. In July 2006 my brother was killed in Iraq, a week later I found out of I was pregnant. The next 9 months of my life was a ridiculous whirlwind of emotions; grief for my brother, guilt for the happiness of my baby, stress for how my life was going to change, more grief for my brother. And in the end by the time the baby came, he really helped us heal a lot – he could not have thought of a better time to come into existence. So I wish you all the luck in the world for the journey you’re about to embark on, and my sincerest condolences on your father.
about 7 months ago
Take care of yourself.
about 7 months ago
<3 from NZ. And big ups to the lucky bugger who gets to keep you by his side.
about 7 months ago
Wow, this post is full of big life changers for you. So first, I’m so sorry to hear your dad. It is no fun to have someone you are close to move on, especially when they left too soon.
Second, congratulations on the move and pregnancy. I hope things progress as stress free as possible on both fronts.
Finally, I’m glad you have a good head on yourself and are caring for your own needs. Enjoy the game time.
about 6 months ago
Keeva, maybe you could either invite guest posts, or pick up a co-Blogger to keep TBJ going fresh, and still a lot you the time you need. Just a suggestion. I wish you all the best, though.